A Family Affair

Family is a 6 letter word. It can be used to describe not only blood relatives but also people who have touched your life on your journey through it. Friends are often considered family because they are there for you like family should be. Ive experienced a lot more friend family then actual blood.
Ive also experienced friends caring more then family ever did. No matter what the issue, my friends have always been there, thick and thin, dropping their own problems to help with mine. Im not the easiest of people to be friends or family with. I have this cloud of unmentionable sorrows that follows me around. My life seems to be a really bad lifetime movie event that never ends. I can honestly say a lot of it was caused by my abandonment issues,  I was passed around as a child like a joint. Over 40 times between the ages of 11-17. I experienced things a child of that age shouldnt have to experience, causing extreme trust issues. Although these things have sculpted me into the adult that I am now, its still up in the air whether it was for good or for bad.
Family in my opinion, are the people who stick by you through it all. Good, bad, and indifferent. There is a handful of people I can say have stuck by me. Only two of them being actual family members. My friends have guided me. They were there when I was 17, after being pimped out by my own mother. Selling my ass for her drug habit and then being left on the streets of Orlando Florida. Thats just a glimpse of the life I've lived, whicb seems like 4 lifetimes.
They say you cant choose Family, but I beg to differ! Ive chosen family often , and have been better because of it and them. I have a best friend who doesnt allow me to feel sorry for myself, she builds me up and lets me fly, and when I crash she is always there to help pick up the pieces.
I have a close friend who took me and my child in like family, A friend who asks for nothing in return, just a passion for helping, and a want for us to be safe and secure. Family doesnt judge you on the past, they help build you into a better person. It has taken a long time, and a lot of drama to get where I am today. It can be attributed to the people I've chosen to be in my life, some life-long and others that have proven to dissapoint!
Regardless, treat people with kindness, allow happiness and love to overflow in your life. Remember to share it with the people who help build it with you! Say Thank You, Tell them you appreciate them. Pay back isnt always monetary or bad. Pay them with respect and love, and in return youll have a family of your own choosing, full of people who love and respect you as you do them. 
In the divine words of RuPaul "If you dont love yourself, how the hell you gonna love somebody else?" 
Rant Over! Xoxo Miah

Come on, People!

When you allow other people into your life, and family, it broadens your perceptions on humanities emotional and mental capacity to love others. Isn’t that what this whole gig is about? Being alone couldn’t be our purpose with oh so many of us roaming around banging our heads to make sense of it all. We were meant to take care of one another. The farther and farther we drift from that mentality, that clear and present danger of imploding is eminent.

This world we so selfishly take for granted, was a gift. We snub our noses at it like spoiled children on Christmas morning. It really is a gross disregard for what was given. All that selfish pride comes from eras, decades, and centuries ago.  So why do we continue to allow it to be a part of us? Pride is the betrayer of mankind. People used to depend on one another for survival; they still do in other countries. Other countries that live happier and more peaceful lives then us! They get it, the human condition and what it’s supposed to be in. They understand how this whole humanity thing works. Switzerland, Denmark, and Canada to name a few. The people have a voice and choice in the matter because? It’s what you do.

There are those who think they can do it alone, and they succeed for a time. Are they Happy? Do they even like themselves? You clearly have to love yourself one hundred percent, in order to love others. That is just a human fact! We pick and choose what is important. Don’t sweat the small stuff, but it’s the small stuff that leads to the even bigger stuff. So that argument won’t work with me. I’ve lived enough life experiences to know that you have to sweat everything.

The simple act of paying attention to the things, people, and environment around you is a good start! Pamper yourself by being kind hearted, make someone smile or feel important, because that feeling you get from it is addictive and it releases a light inside you that will continue to grow and shine until it is no longer an inner battle to be a good person. It would come natural, and if we all grew our inner lights this world would be the Utopia it was meant to be.

We cause out own hell, we can surely cause our own heavens together. We have been traveling down this over trodden path for entirely too long! It’s about time we stop and reconvene on some priorities and the need to add them. Everyone just needs to wake from the fantasy that life is a right, and that it’s every man, woman, and child for themselves.  The one Bible verse that rung true in me, not that I always listened, was “Do unto others, as you would have be done unto you”

What Asshole takes that the opposite direction? We all do!

Wake up

Stand up

Stay up

We need positive on positive change, not the two wrongs make one right we have been living! That’s just bad math! Just stop being shitty people! Love everything and everyone like it matters because it does. Honor the life and world you were so luckily given. If we do nothing, it WILL end in smoke and fire, because we will have actually succeeded in making it Hell on earth!

Learn it

Know it

Love it

“Why can’t people just be wise and know things”- Saint Jasinya Maria Sanchez (A wise true friend)